Have You Lost Control? Take it Back With These Steps

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I turned the page excited because I was a character in the book and I had a choice. I enjoyed the choose your own adventure books but disappointingly I seem to keep making terrible choices. That end in misery or death.

I look back at that experience and realize how much fun it was to be able to choose, explore, and go on my adventure.

I still love choosing and exploring my options. That has never changed.

I guess it’s the same for all of us. We love control.

When we feel like we have control, we feel secure.

But what happens when something tells us we’ve lost control – like the numbers on the scale?

For most people – this is when we feel trapped. We have no choices. We have no control.

WE MUST DIET

WE MUST SWEAT

AND WE MUST PUSH OURSELVES TO EXHAUSTION

Why?

“What do you mean ‘why’?” you ask.

“I deserve this. This is my punishment. I must make myself miserable because I don’t deserve to be happy.”

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DON’T: Don’t punish yourself because ‘you deserve’ to pay for eating badly or missing your workout, you are never going to ‘get on track’.

Listen, if someone is mean to you or someone you care about, do you have respect for that person?

Would you do a favor for that person willingly?

What if that person was you?

If you are being cruel to yourself, you are going to move AWAY from the things you want to be doing to build a healthier life.

Kindness is the key of a great leader. Be kind and you will gain back control.

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DO: Be honest with yourself about where you are.

This means no more secrets. No more hiding.

No more saying ‘It’s not that bad.’

If it wasn’t ‘that bad’, would you be where you are now?

How far are you from where you’d like to me? Or even where you know you could be?

This doesn’t mean you need to be harsh with yourself. Discipline has taken a bad rap, but discipline is just a habit you’ve learned over time.

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DO: Evaluate each ‘failure’.

First, be honest. It’s not a failure, because you will try it again.

Failure is only failure when you stop trying.

Stop calling it a failure.

Always, ask yourself HOW you can improve? What could you have done better? How can you fix it next time?

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There you have it. Love, kindness and honesty, all of the things you deserve.

Be good to yourself and you’ll find the road is a lot easier on you.

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Your challenge:

Think about your self talk today. Does your mind say kind, encouraging things to yourself?

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What approach do you use to ‘get back on track’? Does this work for you? Why or why not.

Comment below.

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