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Here’s the #1 Secret to Attracting New Clients, that No One Tells You

It’s amazing to see the transformation my clients go through while I work with them.

 

A lot of times they start out ready to hustle and take on the world but it’s all fear and stress driven.

 

After working with them and helping them focus (life, business etc) and working with them on slowing down, they REALLY start connecting to their potential clients and then…. their ideal clients START COMING TO THEM.

 

It’s so funny to hear them say, “Oh my God. I just did what you said and it worked!”

 

It’s really about being more heart-centered and you cannot do that if you are always hustling, right? <3

 

Who would have thought the answer was to slow down?

The most beautiful, world-famous empty castle

I just got back from Germany where I spent a few days in Füssen where the Neuschwanstein castle is – the castle that Disneyland’s Sleeping Beauty Castle was modeled after.

 

There are actually two main castles in Füssen. The other castle, no one has heard of (well…it’s not famous), King Ludwig lived in while he built Neuschwanstein high up on the mountain.

 

The story has it, King Ludwig was miserable. He built this castle to show his power and to be able to live alone and unburdened.

Neuschwanstein was incredible and had many modern amenities, including running water. And before the castle was finished, he moved into it.

Ludiwg slept only 11 nights in the castle before an unknown illness took his life.

It’s a really sad story. He thought this castle would make him happy but he never really got to experience it. (And he might not have been happy when he was living there.)

But I wonder about King Ludwig who obviously had riches beyond my comprehension. Couldn’t he have found a way to be happy? I mean, the first castle he was living in wasn’t half bad.

When I think of this story, I think about the businesses we are all hustling to build. I think it’s important to build something you can be happy WHILE building.
I also think it’s important to realize that the castle won’t bring you happiness (in fact, it may bring in a draft from the outside mountain air that ends up being your demise.)

But if we are happy NOW and we enjoy building our castle, how much richer are we than King Ludwig?

 

But I think this happens to a lot of people. We get into these temporary situations where we are miserable while we build our castle. (If you don’t do this, maybe you know someone who does.)

And sometimes we are able to move into our castle. Sometimes we never get there.

 

I see so many people building a business model that won’t make them happy and they certainly aren’t happy WHILE building their business.

The question is, are YOU happy?

If not, then it may be time to change your thoughts, actions, and maybe even your business plan.

If you aren’t happy now, and you need to figure out a plan that will make you happy, let’s jump on a call and create a game plan for you.

You can schedule with me here

The best way to build your business is to work with someone who ALREADY has a business model that gives them the income, and freedom that you want in your own business so they can give you the beliefs, strategy, skills, and tools to do the same.

Otherwise, you continue to build yourself an empty castle.

Much love <3
Nichole Carlson

P.S. Are you building a business model you love? Are you creating the Income, Freedom, and Contribution you want? If not, book a call and let’s talk.

P.P.S. Don’t forget to schedule your free call with me now

How long do you want to wait to start your business?

I just read this on Facebook, “Ladies! It’s been six months since our Business course! How are you all doing?”

“Finishing up the work!” they all replied in more or less words. It was an 8 week course, that they started 6 months ago. 

And no one had any clients. 

No one was making money. 

That is great that they did the course, but I see this all too often. We get ‘stuck’ in the learning process and it takes a long time to launch – sometimes years. 

I get it. I was there too. 

But how many webinars, courses and trainings do you actually need before you finally ‘feel’ like a coach? 

How much ‘set up’ do we need to go through before we are actually ‘ready’ to launch?

The thing of it is, we won’t feel ready until we start working with a client because, by definition, it’s a client that makes us a coach. 

It’s scary, so we put this off, but how many more webinars, courses and trainings can you tolerate? 

I know I was sick of them and completely burnt out before I got my first client. I even felt like I was trying to get a client. But I was scared so I wasn’t taking the actions that would lead to me finally working with a client. 

I hope this doesn’t happen to you, but if you do feel like you are stuck in the Information Train Station, let’s set up a plan to move you forward. 

I have a few openings coming up, if you’d like to talk. Pick a time that works for you here.

It’s easier than you think…

If you’ve ever thought, “There must be an easier way.” – then you’re right….

You don’t need a website, a course or paid ads to get paying clients. You just don’t.

And, as an ex-software engineer, I can tell you that I wasted a lot of time setting up a
website and all of the tech stuff for a long time. And it left me broke.

So here’s a secret most mentors won’t tell you…everything you need – you already
have. We already have a calling to help others because we’ve been there.

See, we are going to be helping someone with something we have personal experience
with, whether we’ve been there in our own past, we’ve helped someone else through
the process, or we have special training in that area.

So everything we need…. is already in our head. Our message and the journey we will
help our clients with are both in our heads.

Honestly, I bet you are even already helping people in the area you want to, but maybe
you just haven’t been paid (the friends and family deal, right?).

So, if you are waiting to get a client until after you get your website, you might want
to reconsider.

PS. If you feel like you need to focus more on getting new clients, let me know.
That’s what I do.

https://nichole-carlson.clickfunnels.com/strategy-call-with…

Are You Trying to Push Through Stress, Overwhelm, and Anxiety?

What needs to change for you today?

At some point we had a system that worked and we followed it. Is it still working for you?

Are there bad habits that are making you unhappy?

For me- yes! I finally took a vacation last week after being run down and burnt out. What did this do to me? I have chronic pain in my ASS when I sit. Yes. I literally cannot sit.

I’ve been going to doctors for over six months to fix this. I’ve gone through the MOST AGGRESSIVE (read: leaving my ass in bruises!) to fix this.

THIS IS FROM SITTING!

If you think you can push through… ‘take it one more day’ … NO! Don’t do it. Yes I’m giving advice to those of you who are already hearing the WARNING SIGNS.

You’ve told me you want to work on your business, be with your families, travel, have fun…. ASK YOURSELF: what if you couldn’t sit. What if you couldn’t spend all day on your social media?

Make your plans now. If you aren’t sick- great! Don’t wait. It will get worse!!

That quiet voice you are shutting out WILL GET LOUDER. You won’t win this (I’m stubborn too!).

Please! Make your plans. Listen to that quiet voice. Do not wait until you break!

I am healthy- or I thought I was. I was in a body building competition last year and won. You think you are stronger? Yeah you probably are! But that quiet voice is being nice… it won’t stay nice.

Love yourself. Invest in yourself. Figure it out now. Get the help.

You don’t want your life to become graston treatments!

Please comment below What are you going to change to make room for what you really want?

 

Business Owners, Coaches, Entrepreneurs… Are Your Problems Following You?

Let’s be real.
 
The problems you ignore WILL follow you.
 
Change relationships? The problem you didn’t learn to fix will come back. Congratulations you didn’t graduate.
 
Yeah. You can leave again. But your problem will come back. (Maybe it was the other person, but YOU picked that person.)
 
Your business isn’t working? Yeah. You can start a new business. But the problems you couldn’t fix in the first business WILL follow you.
 
Learn the lesson you need to learn. THEN make the decision to move on IF YOU WANT A REAL FRESH START.
 
Business examples:
Bad money belief: It’s takes HARD work to make money.
Bad money belief: It’s hard to hang on to money.
Bad money belief: There is not enough money for everyone.
Bad money belief: They are just lucky, gifted, blessed, born with it…. and I am not.
Bad money belief: Money is evil.
Bad money belief: Being rich is a sin.
Bad money belief: I can’t handle having money.
 
NOTE: There are 102 limiting money beliefs.
 
Limiting self belief: I do not deserve it.
Limiting self belief: I’m not good enough to teach [insert other work here]
Limiting self belief: I’m not technical.
Limiting self belief: It’s too hard for the work I want to do because it’s ‘specialized’
Limiting self belief: I’m not an expert.
Limiting self belief: I can’t because…..
 
Maybe these are BASED on a truth, BUT you CAN resolve most of these things, right?
 
Stop waiting.
 
THIS IS YOUR LIFE.
 
MONEY CAN BE REPLENISHED.
 
TIME CANNOT.

 

Is Your Energy Drained? Is Your Business Suffering Because of It?

Are you supposed to be working on your business right now, but you feel drained?

I KNOW about being in each of these places. It’s no place to live.

There could be several reasons for this:
1. You have a fear (maybe something you haven’t discovered).
2. Your business does not support what YOU want.
3. You need to take CARE of yourself – take a break or vacation.

Which one applies to you?

If you don’t know, please comment and ask me to expand on these. Whatever is holding you back WILL CONTINUE to hold you back until you discover and deal with it.

Support is there, you just need to have the STRENGTH to ask for help. (Yes, it takes more strength to ask for help then to act like you have it together.)

Are You Living in ‘Indecision’?

“I don’t know. I can’t decide.” If these are things you are saying in your life – in your business, please ask yourself:

“What FEAR is keeping me from making this decision?”

IF you chose what you REALLY WANT, would that create uncertainty? Would you be ‘putting yourself out there’? Would you be ‘more likely to fail’?

Keep in mind, you CAN FAIL at something you HATE – a job you hate, a relationship you hate, a business you create that you hate.

Why not put the work into YOUR DREAM?

I’ve gotten laid off from so many SOFTWARE ENGINEERING JOBS. THIS IS A ‘CERTAIN’ FIELD. I hated this work. Why wouldn’t I just do what my heart wanted?

Failure. Failure to follow your heart IS FAILING.

Love yourself. Follow your heart. RESPECT your dreams.

 

Are You Stuck? So Many Entrepreneurs Are!

I was on the plane yesterday thinking about some of the struggles my clients go through and I wrote this little story. It is completely made up. It may be worth a read because you might find some truths in it about yourself or your past self…. or not. Either way, please enjoy.

Flying
(Narrator)
Flying. To lift off. Above the busy street noise. The stress of life. The rain. And into the clouds.
Flying is what happens when the mind stops. Stops the chatter. Stops the comparison. Stops the fight.
The fight to be someone or something you’re not.
Until that point you struggle. You wonder. Why can’t I do this? I know what I need to do but I can’t. I don’t know why.

(Narrator)
But you do. You do know why. You are trying to fit. Square inside round. Pie inside lie.
This isn’t what you want.

(You ask)
But what else is there? What else is accepted? Loved? Valued? Rewarded?

(Narrator)
Yes. Rewards. You get external rewards.

(You respond)
It isn’t that bad. I should be grateful.

(Narrator)
Sit down. Shut up. Take your check. Take your pills so you can swallow your life.

Trapped. Rewarded. But empty. Empty because you’ve shut it down. You. Your essence. Your calling. Your self love.
Why?

Something happened. Maybe many somethings. You were young. You got trained like the baby elephant. You’ve learned. Hide. It’s safe. Run. Safer still.

But you’re losing the race. Your white picket fence is tattered. Faded. You’ve lost the energy and desire to fix it.

You are mad. Angry. The ‘Dream’ became your nightmare. Your nightmare of keeping up. The Jones.

(You respond)
Why? Why do I struggle. I was promised this would work. Where is my success?
Time is running out. Time is catching up. I’m losing. I’m busy. But I can’t account for my time.
I’m so burnt out. Why can’t I figure this out? Everyone else is passing me. What’s wrong with me?

(Narrator)
You’ve lost. Noooooo. You’ve lost YOU. Your soul. Your calling.
You’ve ran from it. You’ve hid from it. You’ve shut your ears.

Just stop. Take a breath. Rest.

There! There’s your soul. Your calling. Your passion. There it is. You’ve allowed it to catch up to you.

(You reply)
But… but…. it won’t work. No! I won’t be accepted! Rewarded! Loved! I won’t be loved!
No! I’d rather lie. I’ll keep my lie. I can’t open. Vonerability is not for me. It’s pain. I’m done with that. I will not be hurt again!

(Narrator- confused)
But?? You ARE in pain. You struggle. You fight. You compare. You are trapped. You are burnt out.
Just be you. It’s easy. It’s less work. Follow your inner voice. Love.

(You scream)
I can’t!
I just can’t!
I know I’m in pain. But if I keep lying, I’m doing what they want. They have to love me.
If I tell them who I really am….and they hate me…. they hate the REAL me.
My truth. My soul.

I’d rather keep trying to fit. They told me this would work. I see the others succeeding. It HAS to work. I MUST be loved.

(Narrator)
But if you are the real you, you won’t struggle. You won’t fight. You won’t compare. And you can be loved. Really loved.
If you keep living this lie, you will never get the real love. You’ll only be accepted. And only accepted on the surface. It’s all empty.

(You)
I’m fine. It’s not that bad. I just need to paint the fence. I’ll be fine. I’m lucky. I’m really… lucky….. (voice fades as you walk away)