When you’ve learned from the last relationship and this time you’ll pick someone ‘safe’…

When you’ve learned from the last relationship and this time you’ll pick someone ‘safe’… You will STILL 

Have

the

Same 

Problem.

Maybe a slightly different flavor, but you are guaranteed the same problem.

Almost 20 years the problem followed me through my marriage, into my next two relationships.

Abandonment…

Neglect…

Feeling alone…

Work was more important than me…

Feeling like something was wrong with me…

Frustrated…

Feeling like I needed to do more, be more, change something about me… 

And so I did. 

I tried keeping my mouth shut (and ‘being nice’ – I don’t do that anymore)

I tried saying something…

I tried being direct…

I tried being indirect…

I tried counseling, books, audios, I tried it all… I even tried divorce and a new relationship.

THAT didn’t even work. 

WTF does a girl got to do to get attention around here?!

And where is my soulmate?

Oh. 

I hadn’t tried it all.

I hadn’t tried the thing that would work.

Deciding that I was DONE with the problem and then deciding that I was all-in on the relationship.

And it’s true… 

My ex-boyfriend and I broke up, went to counseling to fix the problem and we FIXED it. We got the love, trust, and intimacy and in the end… He left. He moved to Germany for a job. (still love him, he’s an amazing man, so much respect)

But it wasn’t about him. It was never about him. It was about FIXING THE PROBLEM. 

And we did.

And after he left, I continued to work on myself to fix the problem.

So after 20 years of CHOOSING to keep this problem, I finally decided to be done with it,

Did the work and May 31st I manifested my future husband.

And…

did you know…

that when you manifest…

it doesn’t take time?

It works instantly.

But to get to the point where I could manifest, that took some work. (well, I was always manifesting but not what I consciously wanted – we all are)

May 31st I wrote one line in my journal and 4 days later he was in my living room talking about moving with me wherever I wanted to go (which was really weird cos I also manifested we would move to Hawaii, but HE had no idea of that when he was talking about moving with me at the time)

I spent years and years thinking I was close,

thinking it was right around the corner,

thinking this next thing, this next guy will work, 

thinking I would be smarter this time…

Nah.

I was pretty much bullshitting myself. 

I was pretty much just deciding to keep my problem and thrashing around trying to solve it and wasting years and years of my life.

If you want to finally have complete confidence in your relationship, If you want to stop feeling abandoned, neglected, drained, frustrated, stop second-guessing yourself, feeling like you are not enough…

And you want to feel so confident in your relationship, If you want to know this is going to work, if you want to feel loved, if you want to feel like the King or Queen you are, if you want to finally start getting what your heart wants and needs!!!!! and if you are ready to DECIDE that you ARE going to have the life and the love you crave – 

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