I just got back from Puerto Rico where I met a guy I instantly had a soul connection with. We were both there to transition our lives in one way or another. We both went on faith, knowing we just needed to go.
We spent two days talking about our lives and all the things and at the end of two days, he just looked at me and said, “I feel better about things. I have a plan for going back home and I know what I want to create in my life.”
And I paused and looked at him intensely… “In all the things… In all the planning… Don’t forget to live”
I think that moment was powerful for both of us. Partly because when we journaled later we both -unknowingly – wrote that as a title to our journal page… And partly because this has been my life’s message.
In my 20’s I was married to a man I didn’t trust because he had cheated on me the first year we were together and in a career I hated because of the money – it was safe. On the outside my life was white-picked-fence-perfect. But fuck, I HATED it. I just felt the life force draining out of me every day and I would walk around with my head down and my earplugs in. I’d go hide in the bathroom at work and have anxiety attacks.
Near the end of my marriage, my mom got cancer when she was only 47. Over the next year, I watched her continue to work and go through treatments. She got sicker but talked about still wanting to take that road trip to the Grand Canyon with her dog Foster. She died before she turned 48.
This was a message to me – I needed to LIVE. There were so many days I was nauseous with my life and what I was doing, but I had no idea what was really wrong. (I’m SURE you know someone who has ‘anxiety for no reason’) I thought I had everything and that I was just ungrateful. I didn’t realize that I had said ‘yes’ to all the ‘right’ things and that with every small thing I said yes to, I was saying no to myself, my wants, my needs, and my desires until I had built up this ‘perfect’ life that I hated. For what? Security and ‘doing the right thing.’
I got a divorce and sold my house.
And then one day I quit my job, sold my car AN HOUR LATER, and was on a one-way to Spain the NEXT DAY.
So that’s the thing about not following soul – (Also the same as suppressing your soul) you get the point where you become so miserable that you take a blow torch to your life. For some people it’s drugs or alcohol, for others it’s cutting or suicide attempts and some people eat and Netflix binge. My flavor was drinking and cheating and eventually leaving it all because I knew I wasn’t a THAT person – a cheater – and it was about walking away from that person of myself.
When I left to travel, I learned how to live. When I came back to build my business I learned to follow my soul. When I competed in my bodybuilding competitions, I learned to love and live in the process of whatever I’m doing in life.
Now I can’t go back and change things for my mom. I can’t give her that trip to the Grand Canyon she wanted, but I can take the gift she gave me and LIVE.
And I get to help my clients do the same in their business, relationships, and life. For instance, last year I had a client who messaged me, “Nichole, I’ve been sitting here with a gun on my lap for the last 15 minutes.” We got on a call right away and he’s doing great now… but this is the way we live. No, you may not have a gun on your lap but in SOME way… you are missing life.
Either you’ve lost the passion in your business – or never had it…
Or you’ve lost the passion in your relationship – and maybe you overwork to escape it…
And maybe you are constantly working, not able to focus, procrastinating…
And you are just kind of in this zombie-trying-to-hold-it-together-mode…
Here’s the thing…we ALL forget how to live at some point. It’s easy to do. But how do you get back? How do you revive a dead business or a dying relationship?
It can be done. But what has to happen first is that…
You have to BELIEVE it’s possible for you.
In all the things, don't forget to live…
Posted by Nichole Carlson on Sunday, February 24, 2019
I’m freaking excited! I’ve just opened the doors to my new 8-week program…
SOUL ON FIRE! 8 Weeks to Set Your Soul On Fire & Transform Your Life, Biz, and Relationship!
This is HOW to create a life that makes you want to jump out of bed with excitement every morning, create programs in your biz that you absolutely are in love with, be able to call in soul mate clients easily, make more $$$ money because you are on fire and get to work less, attract people that light you up in your personal life, and Set Your Soul On Fire NOW.
This IS my life’s message and it’s THE thing everyone is craving. You JUST want to have a life that lights you up – a business you are ECSTATIC about (because that brings the shit-tons of $$$$ too!), a relationship that is full of passion and excitement, and a body that is healthy, vibrant and full of energy… I mean…
If you could have these, is there anything you couldn’t do?
And honestly, for me, last year was great. I unleveled my business, I won 1st in my bodybuilding competition and I worked out my relationship shit, and no doubt I had fun but it
DRAINED THE FUCK OUT OF ME
and I took some time to do some soul searching… And FUCK… I’m NOT going to make it if this year is like last year… So I went to Puerto Rico and as I got on the plane, I said… “Puerto Rico, Set My Soul on Fire!” And while I was in Puerto Rico I created THIS program because I KNOW that to make it this year, you need so much more than what you are getting in your life.
Here it is:
YOU ARE NOT BASIC – There’s no way you’ve been through all the things you’ve been through just to follow everyone else and live the way everyone else is living… There is something you were BORN to do and everything in your life has led you up to this very point. You were born to LEAD – your family, as a parent, in your community, in your business – whatever it is, you were BORN to LEAD.
EVERYTHING IN YOUR LIFE HAS LED YOU HERE – You may have spent years looking for what to do with your life, feeling lost, feeling like you just need to hurry up and figure it out, but what if your past WAS what you were supposed to be going through? What if it’s ALL a part of the plan? Let’s talk about how we can take your past and use it to PULL you forward into the destiny you were born for?
SOUL ON FIRE – Let’s be perfectly honest here…It’s not that you’re unmotivated, procrastinating or unwilling… It’s not even that you don’t know what to do…In fact, it’s the opposite… You know what you want, you know what to do and you’ve done it. You’re good at crushing it and making things happen. So why aren’t you? You are bored.
BUSINESS ON FIRE – You are also bored in your business to some degree or another – that’s why you are still self-doubting, looking for validating, jumping from thing to thing. We are going to talk about going NEXT LEVEL, THE EASE OF SELLING, MAKING CASH FLOW TO YOU and ATTRACTING YOUR SOULMATE CLIENTS.
BE BOLD, BE SEEN – What it takes to be seen as a leader and how you can still do this – even if you are an introvert. This was a huge fear of mine when I first started my business and it still shows up some times, so we are going to talk about being seen, being vulnerable and setting boundaries – because boundaries and vulnerability DO need to go together. Let’s keep your subconscious feeling safe so you can make the biggest impact!
THE FIRE – How you can connect to your power every day – we are talking about your heart and soul. We have been taught to stay in our heads and that IS NOT where our power lies. If you want the ultimate power, drive, motivation PLUS desire, passion, excitement – we’ve got to go to our heart. This is going to have the biggest impact on your life, business, and relationship.
THERE’S A REASON YOU ARE STILL STANDING – All the things you are going through right now may be hard or painful, but HOW you get through this is everything so we are going to talk about what you are going through RIGHT NOW and how to come out on top. THIS is going to help you through whatever you are going through so you can ALWAYS come out stronger and better than before. I’m going to share some stories that will blow you away.
TRUSTING YOURSELF & THE UNIVERSE – How do you make things easy and fun? Trust – trust yourself and the world around you. But HOW do you trust? That’s the secret, now isn’t it? We are going to talk about how to trust yourself after you’ve failed – your divorce, your bad relationship patterns, your health and body, your business fuck-ups – how to STILL trust yourself and be able to MOVE FORWARD!
IF YOU ARE GOING TO MAKE IT, YOU ARE GOING TO NEED SOUL FIRE – If you are going to make shit-tons of money, have a passionate relationship, have a business you are in love with, have soulmate clients you are going to need drive and motivation – and that some from SOUL FIRE. You need to have fun and excitement in your life before you get there. That means this self-sacrifice and martyr bullshit has to go. You need to start living TODAY AND EVERY SINGLE DAY. We are going to talk about what that means in your life. In your business. With your money. In your relationship. And how to make it happen.
BACKING YOURSELF – What you believe, think and do determines what you get in your life. If you don’t believe something is possible, you are going to hold back and then, of course, you won’t get whatever you are after. You KNOW what you want – you KNOW you want to have a life that you are so in love with and that makes you want to jump out of bed in the morning, so why don’t you? Let’s talk about what you believe, your patterns and associations and how that is creating your life and what you are currently getting in your life – and how to FLIP THE SWITCH on it.
SOUL ON FIRE! Officially starts Monday, March 25th!
CLICK THE HERE FOR full details!