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I talked to my military dad the other day…

I talked to my military dad the other day… (A friend of my parents from the army base while we were growing up… You form army families)

Told him about how I manifested my future husband and all the things…

And he was around when I was married to my ex-husband and when I divorced my ex-husband… 

And he said he was really sad for me when I got divorced and was talking about how I never wanted to get into a relationship again and how I never wanted to get married again… 

He said it hurt him to see that I was so shut to love and How I was missing on lot of happiness.

He said that he is so happy that I found love And that I made such huge shifts in my life.

I think pretty much everyone that knew me when I was married and saw me go through my divorce is shocked that I have manifested my future husband because I had no interest before. 

Hell I’m kind of shocked 

But yeah it was painful being in pain and shutdown. But that was a choice and apparently, it can change and just an instant.

What are you choosing?

 

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Heyyyyy… Let’s talk. Heart to heart because I know what you are going through and I know you think it’s going to get better…

Heyyyyy… Let’s talk. Heart to heart because I know what you are going through and I know you think it’s going to get better…

But that’s not how it works and somewhere deep inside you, you know it’s the truth. 

 

You are in the same relationship cycle you’ve been in for a while and it keeps repeating, doesn’t it? 

And… it’s actually going to get worse…

And maybe what’s going on in the relationship in tolerable – or you’ve gotten used to it, but here’s what’s really happened…

 

You have shut down emotionally so you are able to stay in the relationship and force yourself to make it work.

But there is a danger in doing that…

Because when you do that – it actually does 2 things – 

1 it creates an emotional barrier between the two of you and blocks you from a soul connection and true intimacy

2 it shuts down the emotions of passion, excitement, and motivation – which means… IT WIL KILL YOUR DESIRE FOR MONEY and ultimately impact your finances, your business, your clients and your self-worth

 

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So what does that look like? It looks like you…

not being able to focus in your business

procrastinating…

losing motivation…

but working ALL OF THE TIME…

losing money, but not really sure why or where it’s going…

not having physical energy… 

not being able to sleep… staying up worried about money… worried about the relationship…

not being able to get up in the morning…

your coffee suddenly seems like it’s decaf… wtf…

you feel drained…

you think it’s a sleeping problem or a procrastination problem… 

You start sabotaging your diet and not going to the gym…

You feel frustrated at everything and find yourself getting angry when you aren’t really an angry person (which you blame on not sleeping, but that’s not the REAL problem)

 

Ok, so YES, you ‘can’ keep doing this – mostly because you’ve shut down your emotions and you are just going on autopilot, but is it worth it? 

You feel dead inside. 

Emotionally drained. 

And you know… this is not the life you were meant to be living.

 

I know it seems like you have 2 choices that both don’t seem like choices – stay and put up with it or leave and start all over… 

You are right. Those aren’t choices. Those suck. And they feel defeating. 

 

You can fix the problem. You can work through what’s going on in the relationship and change the dynamics of the relationship, but…

you need to know how to do it. 

 

I left my marriage thinking it was my only option, but then kept picking ‘safe’ men who wouldn’t abandon me – but they always did. It took me 4 relationships and 20 years to figure this out… 

 

20 years to Flip the Switch.

But once I did, I manifested my future husband with one line in my journal. 

 

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We are so wrapped up in personal development and ‘finding our blocks’ so we can eradicate them and get the damn thing that we forget we need to heal – which is probably your soul telling you to slow the fuck down and rest.

We are so wrapped up in personal development and ‘finding our blocks’ so we can eradicate them and get the damn thing that we forget we need to heal – which is probably your soul telling you to slow the fuck down and rest.

But you are so wrapped up in fear…

omg… I want babies and I’m only getting older…

omg… it didn’t work out and I’m starting all over at the old age of 34! (pffffttt)

omg… what if I don’t hit my income goal?

omg… what if I say the wrong thing and they leave me…

omg… how do I manifest my soulmate relationship (go watch nichole’s free training – pm me for the link-hahahahaha)

omg… what if…

 

Ok first of all, with that attitude you are going to scare everyone away and everything you want away so just squeeze yourself into the freezer door for a few minutes and then come back…

 

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And maybe you DO need healing (most likely) but if you didn’t KNOW this (which you didn’t) you need to get support. Yes, I’m selling you because I can sit here and give you all the free support and all the ah-ha moments through my lives, my posts, my podcast… but ain’t nothing going to change for you. Why? Because money is an energy exchange. As long as you are just consuming information, nothing happens. Once you make a decision, change occurs.

 

I don’t know if you’ve ever gotten to this point…after you’ve done all the things that you were supposed to do to make the damn thing happen and then it didn’t happen, and you’ve finally realized ohhhhhh…. YOU were stopping YOU. This whole time, you thought it was the clients, the economy, you just didn’t know how, you didn’t have the time, someone backstabbed you… and then all that was cleared out…. and it was just you fighting you.

That’s a very sobering place to be, but it’s also the place where you CAN take action because you know that you have the power to create the reality you want.

 

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I hesitated using the word Addicted…

I hesitated using the word Addicted
I was prescribed Adderall by a doctor, I never abused it, in fact I took 1/4 of my prescription each day and sometimes I didn’t take any…
I never thought it was that bad…
But I didn’t want to be on it either…
For years I searched the internet for the effects of Adderall -looking for a reason to get off of it…
The details of what it was really doing weren’t out there…
There was always this idea that as long as you didn’t abuse it, you’d be fine.
I wrote this book as a reminder to myself that it was that bad:
I was losing my eyesight,
My kidneys were hurting,
I wasn’t able to focus,
I had no energy,
I had lost my ability to be excited, lost my drive and motivation,
My memory was going,
And so much more.

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This isn’t about Adderall though. This book is about what you are saying is not that bad in your own life? What are you living with that’s killing you on the inside?
Is it your marriage?
Your career?
Your lack of time?
How many times have you put off that vacation?
Why aren’t you spending time with your loved ones? With your kids? Is it worth it?
There is something that we all, as achievers, think we need to hang on to so we can keep achieving.
I ask you…
Is it worth you LIFE?
Because that’s what you are giving to stay ADDICTED to your current reality.

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I tell my story of Addiction…

I tell my story of Addiction… ?
?‍♀️ not because… I am stuck in my story…
?‍♀️ not because I want to show you I’m a victim of the system,
?‍♀️ And not because I want you to feel bad for me…
?‍♀️ And not because I think you need help with getting off of Adderall…
? But because I know you can relate to feeling like you’ve made the best decisions you could at the time…
And maybe you are feeling like you have ‘crippling pain’ you in your life that is holding you back… maybe it’s your relationship, maybe it’s an old story, maybe it’s a career… maybe you don’t even know (like I didn’t realize it was Adderall for the longest time), but you have something that you need to overcome and heal from….
? I want you to know you are the creator of your own life.
? I want you to know that as soon as you decide, you CAN and will rise up and conquer it.
? No matter what happened ‘to you’… it happened FOR YOU.

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Without my Addiction… ⬇️
? I would NEVER have had crippling chronic pain that allowed me to realize I had trauma from 15 years ago that I needed to heal from… (which probably saved me from getting cancer later)…
? I never would have learned to manifest my healing…
? I never would have MANIFESTED my future husband on May 31!!! Eeeeekkkkkk!!!!
? I never would have built up the determination and belief in myself get through the withdrawal and be able to overcome it so quickly from pure willpower…
? I wouldn’t have written my book, Addicted, which will impact millions…

Whatever you are going through IS hard, but you are the creator of your life.
? You get to decide what defines you.
? You get to decide how you are going to get through this.
? Are you going to scream out victim? Or are you going to rise up and be a light to what is possible?

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What if you’re wasting your time? 

What if you’re wasting your time? 

What if you don’t need to work that hard? 

What if all your obsessing and worrying are just keeping you from the truth that you could have the clients you want today.

That you could have the money you want today.

You could have the soulmate relationship you want today.

But your work is pushing it away.

So as you sit there counting your clients and counting your money in the bank and trying to figure out if you’re going to hit your next income goal, Just for second imagine that you’re just wasting your energy on something That’s actually keeping you from hitting that next income goal.

Oh not to mention the fact that you believe that you need that next funnel, that once you get your message right, that once you get your website up blah blah blah…

Aren’t you exhausted yet!?

Aren’t you also tired of wasting years of your life when you know there’s an easier way (Even though maybe you haven’t figured it out yet obviously)?

If you’re looking for that easier way to have the business in the clients that you’re struggling so hard for… And wasting time money and energy trying to get,

You have to know that it’s all in the mindset shift. 

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(Okay so You might need a shovel to dig out some of those old beliefs since they’re so rooted in) but what if you could change your mind? I mean you see it. With those other coaches, those other entrepreneurs, And if you think about it for a moment obviously you’re doing it wrong. Because you’re not going to get out of the cycle you’re in by finishing this one last funnel or doing this one last launch, so then you can finally have blah blah blah… 

THAT THOUGHT… Is what keeps you trapped. Is what keeps you exhausted. Is what keeps you wasting years and years and years of your life.

Oh, let me hurry up and finish this. <<< This is the lie that you’re telling yourself. When are you going to stop believing it? When are you going to choose to make things easy on yourself? When are you going to choose to stop keeping things just out of arms reach?

If you’ve made 5-10k months but you haven’t been consistent or it’s been a few months since you hit those goals… If you are looking to step into your power, stop wasting your time and energy in the struggle, Make consistent income Every single month and grow that income Every single month by changing your mindset… And by learning to trust yourself…

I have a couple of spots open for one-on-one coaching over the next 4 months. Cuz what you need is not another strategy you need something that will change your beliefs around who you are and what you’re capable of… which will change your life forever. You need something that teaches you how to be fully you and make money from it. You need something that actually satisfies your hunger in your business and in your life. 

Click on the link to book a call with me, pick a day and time that works for you and then answer a few questions in the next page. Bit.ly/nccall

and then I’ll see you on the call

 

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If you are a leader, creator, visionary and you are living your passion…You should be happy…

If you are a leader, creator, visionary and you are living your passion…
You should be happy…
Um.
No.
That’s not how it works.

So if you are out there thinking this and trying desperately to build your empire, launch your programs, get on stage…
I’m gonna say something that may piss you off.
It’s not going to make you happy.
And you running yourself down to do it…
It’s going to hold you back…
And you putting your relationships and health to the side…
It’s going to hurt you…

I get it.
You FUCKING LOVE your work…
And maybe you feel all of this momentum and excitement from the high of it…
But maybe you are in the ‘in-between’
Where we get when we are ummm… between big achievements…
And you are wondering if you can keep this up…
And you keep feeling that nagging feeling that something is missing…
And you keep putting off that vacation…
And you keep telling yourself that it’s not that bad…
And yet… your soul knows.
Your soul knows you are neglecting yourself ‘for the greater good’

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And if you keep ‘losing focus’…
Feeling anxiety…
Procrastinating…
Getting angry for no reason… (and then maybe blaming your partner)
Feeling like you just need to do more meditation or yoga…
But this has been going on for years?

You THINK you can put off your life…
You think you should put off certain things in your life for the work,
but doing this is the thing that I see that makes people hit financial plateaus, lose money, lose clients, burn out…
THIS>> You CAN build your empire AND have the relationship of your dreams.
THIS>> You CAN build your empire AND pay yourself AND take time off for yourself.
THIS>> You CAN have the body you want and feel healthy and vibrant.
AND you NEED to.

Your SOUL is telling you this.
Your SOUL is stopping you in your business….
Your SOUL is keeping you from that next level…
Because your SOUL needs love…
It’s not selfish.

It’s for the greater good.

I know you are running the numbers all the time.
I know you can’t shut down.
I know you can’t fall asleep because you keep thinking about how to get more clients and how you are going to find the time and energy…
And then I know you are getting up, checking your phone first thing, and going right into your day thinking… “I just need to make it through” “I just need to hurry up and finish this so I can…”
You want time?
You want to break that plateau?

My client did just this. She was stuck at $20k per month and COULD NOT breakthrough. Within 2 months, she made $45k and has just kept going. The crazy thing…. is she stopped working so much – like 4 hours 5 days a week and decided to have another kid (2 now). She’s incredible. And she fell back in love with her work.

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Your belief that you can’t find someone because you are successful, is a lie.

Your belief that you can’t find someone because you are successful, is a lie.
Oh… you keep having huge income dips…
Phases where you struggle to get clients (even though at THIS stage it shouldn’t be happening for you)
You hit an upper limit…
Money plateaus…

And yet… You’ve put having a soulmate relationship on the backburner…
THIS is the problem…

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Maybe you can’t attract your soulmate == you will have problems attracting clients AND money
Problems getting attention from your soulmate == getting noticed as a leader, messenger to your soulmate clients
Lost your drive, ambition in your business == you are probably having boring sex if you are even having sex at all (you’ve probably decided to stay single)
Your income suddenly drops == your problems in your relationship have hit the fan
Hit an upper limit? == you probably have an amazing soulmate, but you are probably not spending ANY time with them

Single, married, dating… whatever your ‘status’ is doesn’t matter. If you are not getting BOTH what you WANT AND WHAT YOU NEED… (and yes, you do NEED intimacy and hot sex) …
You will not make the impact… make the income… You KNOW you should be making.

Your belief that you can’t find someone because you are successful, is a lie.
You can have an AMAZING love life.

PS. Don’t forget to check out my free training below!! 

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