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[New Podcat Episode]44: Why you aren’t getting what you want when you manifest!

Why you aren’t getting what you want when you manifest!
Since I’ve been talking about manifesting, all of my friends have started using that word… And while I get why, I don’t think they have enough knowledge or depth of how to actually manifest what they want.
For example, a year and a half ago when I really really wanted to be with this guy that I’ve NOW manifested as my future husband, I thought that I understood manifesting. I thought it was really just having enough desire for something and then “your wish would be granted!”
Um.
No.
And this thought – idea… leads people to frustration and ultimately CREATES MORE BLOCKS FOR THEM because now they think they are UNLUCKY or that THE UNIVERSE IS AGAINST THEM…
No, Hun. You just don’t understand how it really works yet.
And that’s fine.
But you have to keep working at it and learning…
Because ONCE you get it – your reality snaps into your manifestation – just like mine did on May 31st when MFH (my future husband) showed up in my living room saying, “Wherever you go, I’m going with you!”

Listen here->> http://bit.ly/nicholeshow

He fulfills my sexual fantasy

He fulfills my sexual fantasy

In my 20’s I married a man I didn’t trust.

He had cheated on me.

I never felt safe to be seen.

In fact, I remember one incident where I walked in front of him naked and he says to me, “We’ve really gained a lot of weight over the past few weeks.”

What?

What was that?

Fast forward to now when I am creating money from my soul – sharing my story and being vulnerable and ‘seen’…

I realized that not feeling safe to be seen in my most intimate relationship has kept me from feeling safe to be seen in the world and with money.

And men.

It’s taken a long time for me to allow my self to trust again – people in general, friends, family, the world.

And I’ve done a lot of work to be able to come to a space where I am paid to be me and I get paid to teach others to be themselves.

Nichole Carlson, Flip the Switch

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I’ve also done a lot of work to feel safe to be seen in my relationship.

Being fully seen, loved and accepted in my most intimate relationship is a sexual fantasy of mine – which my future husband is fulfilling for me.

And being able to be seen in the world for who I am (and getting paid for it!) has been a dream of mine.

If you can’t feel safe to be seen in your intimate relationship how do you think this is playing out in your ability to feel safe and seen in your business?

 

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Life gets to be easy

Life gets to be easy.

Yeah right!

When?

For who?

How hard do I have to work to get to that point?

One of the hardest things about manifesting is this idea that…life gets to be easy.

Money ‘gets’ to be easy.

Love ‘gets’ to be easy.

And that belief alone is one of the reasons I rejected manifesting for so long.

Life, money and love were ANYTHING but easy.

At least for me.

And until I got so sick and tired of life being hard, life WAS hard. All of it.

In fact life was so hard I cheated and compromised my way through my entire life, just taking whatever I could get while still trying to be a good person and do the right thing.

And there was never enough.

And eventually, I grew out of a lot of that in my 30s, but life was still kind of hard. And I wasn’t getting what I wanted.

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I mean, you see it, right?

There are people who find their purpose and finally get out of their software engineering jobs…

There are people who seem to magically manifest their future husbands…

And they seem to always look good too.

And it seems like it’s ‘easy’ for them.

I was a fighter.

Everything was a fight to the death for me.

And I pushed myself to achieve.

But life has a way of ‘guiding’ you (aka, knocking you on your ass) to where you need to be.

All that struggle was just perpetuating more struggle.

The more you struggle the more you struggle.

But it’s hard to let go and trust.

What if it all goes to hell?

But this ‘guidance’ took the options from me.

My ex-boyfriend literally left the country after we broke up – forcing me to let go

My body shut down almost completely – forcing me to get off of Adderall

My future husband and I were energetically blocked until I chose to let things be easy and manifest him.

Right now you may be thinking that all these ‘bad things’ are happening.

You may be feeling like ‘it’s not working ‘

You may be wondering why manifesting isn’t working for you.

I get it. Part of the reason MAY be, ‘We still believe we have to struggle’

I know I still believe that deep down. It pulls me back sometimes.

And then I have to remind myself – it ‘gets’ to be easy for me.

Because it HAS to be easy.

It’s the only way we truly get what we want.

I trust that you are receiving this message right when you need it.

I love you lots and I would love to show you how life, money and love ‘get’ to be easy for you.

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[NEW PODCAST EPISODE] #38: What it means to be a high-performer… With Fabi Paolini

Please join us as Fabi and I talk about…
What it means to be a high-performer…
??? The struggle of being a high-performer and being all-in…putting your pride aside and getting the mentors and coaches…
??? What it means to be ALL-IN…
??? Why you can’t just buckle down and ‘get this done’ until…

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***MORE ABOUT FABI***
Fabi is a coach and branding expert who helps you scale your passion or business into a powerful Brand that Attracts multiple 6-figures online.

https://www.facebook.com/fabiana.paolini
http://fabipaolini.com

 

Listen here->> http://bit.ly/nicholeshow

 

[NEW PODCAST EPISODE] #37: Uncovering the truth about money with Shannon DePalma

Shannon and I are Uncovering the truth about money
We will be discussing…
??? How your past blocks your money flow
??? How your relationships keep you from skyrocketing your income
??? How your relationship with money is intertwined with your sex life 

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***MORE ABOUT SHANNON*** Shannon DePalma is a money mindset mentor for high-level female entrepreneurs. She believes business needs cash flow and in order to do that, you have to charge appropriately, which is probably more than you’re charging now. She wants more women to be wealthy and won’t quit until that happens. From Broke to Booked Out: 4 experiments on how you can get booked out by raising your prices and owning your badassness: https://shannondepalma.lpages.co/get-booked-out/
https://www.facebook.com/shannon.duffy

 

Listen here->> http://bit.ly/nicholeshow

[NEW PODCAST EPISODE] #36: Taylor (Manning) Lee and I are talking about RELATIONSHIPS and what needs to happen for you to be successful in your business AND your relationship

Taylor (Manning) Lee and I are talking about RELATIONSHIPS and what needs to happen for you to be successful in your business AND your relationship.
?How to determine if you are with the right partner
?What to do when it all goes to hell
?How to create that perfect relationship
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Taylor Lee helps coaches create 6 figure years (and beyond) on repeat.

Listen here->> http://bit.ly/nicholeshow

[NEW PODCAST EPISODE] #35: How I made a quantum leap… And how he went from ‘I don’t want a relationship’ to ‘marry me’ ..

#35: How I made a quantum leap… And how he went from ‘I don’t want a relationship’ to ‘marry me’ ..

Nothing gives you more anxiety than not knowing if your relationship is going to work…

You’ve invested so much and now it doesn’t look like it’s working

And you are wondering why it feels so hard when it’s supposed to be making you happy…

And then going into those thoughts –

Why isn’t this working yet…

What am I missing…

Maybe you aren’t good enough…

You didn’t try hard enough…

You weren’t supportive enough…

Maybe this just wasn’t meant to be…

Maybe love just wasn’t enough…

That sends you into the downward spiral of feeling lost and hopeless.

? May 31st I wrote one line in my journal declaring that I was going to marry this certain man… (I was tired of dating and wanted to KNOW this was it for me)

During the next 3 days, I visualized him proposing to me, marrying me, and living with me…

And within 5 minutes of seeing him the next time, he took a ring I had and jokingly went to one knee and put the ring on my finger.

? He’s asked to meet my dad.

? He’s met my Grams.

? He’s casually said, ‘marry me’ during a conversation. TWICE.

? ONE – He is NOT the marrying type.

? TWO – I am NOT the marrying type.

? THREE – before that day, there was a HARD energetic wall (like a Fort Knox wall) between us and everything told me it was ‘unrealistic’

Listen here->> http://bit.ly/nicholeshow

Adderall was killing me

For those of us who want to get to the next level, we are always looking for that edge to be better, faster, smarter and stronger.

Our biggest problem may be that we are doing something we don’t want to be doing in the first place or doing something in a way we don’t want to be doing it. My addiction helped me be able to perform in a life I didn’t want to be living in the first place. And maybe you don’t have an addiction, but if you are compromising who you are and what you want in your business, in your marriage, in your life… it will keep you from making it to the next level easily and from reaching your full potential. And what’s the point of reaching that next level if your ladder is completely against the wrong wall?

You have been given dreams and desires – dreams that drive you to be better, faster, stronger, smarter without prescription drugs.

This is my story of going through 10 days of detox in Costa Rica and what I discovered about what the last 5 years have done to my body.

This is an excerpt from my book Addicted: How to Stop Compromising and Be Truly Happy in Your Life

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As I walked off stage placing First, First and Third, last year after my 3rd bodybuilding competition and in the best shape of my life…
Little did I know that within a week I would have chronic crippling pain throughout my body that would lead me to spend every moment in my life on my recovery,
spend thousands of dollars only to see my body just getting worse,
feeling like I was fighting for my life as I watch my business that I love so much fall apart,
lose all of my friends and become isolated and alone…
FOR AN ENTIRE YEAR…
 
And I would start to lose my eyesight,
My short term-memory was going,
Depression set in,
My organs started hurting,
I couldn’t sleep at all and I couldn’t stay awake during the day,
I was chronically fatigued.
 
I quit everything except for my recovery…
In search for what was killing me.
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The one thing that I loved and trusted the most – my body – I could no longer trust or depend on.
I even stopped taking clients but kept working on my business hoping…
Knowing…
That one day…
I would win.
 
But things kept getting worse.
September 23rd I was curled up in a ball, pain shooting through my body, in a hotel room in San Jose, Costa Rica.
It was supposed to be my vacation, but it was my darkest hour.
Why was this happening to me?!
I was doing everything right!
Warm tears rolled down my face as determination and pain shot through my body.
Intuition kicked in and I texted a friend.
She mentioned Adderall and suddenly it clicked.
 
Adderall was killing me.
 
I kind of knew it all along but I tried to justify all of my symptoms until I couldn’t anymore.
So I flipped the switch inside of me to never go back.
I was DONE.
 
I had been off for 3 days on because I wasn’t taking it on vacation so I was already 3 days into the detox.
I spent 10 days detoxing in Costa Rica and wrote my first book on my Adderall detox, Addicted(available on Amazon 🙂
 
Now it’s been 2 months and 7 days and I have my life back.
 
You may not have an addiction to Adderall, but what are you doing right now that’s taking away your life and suppressing your soul.
In my 20s, it was that I was married to a man I didn’t trust and in a career I HATED.
And I stayed and justified my reasons for staying in that relationship, for staying in that career…
But at the end of the day… YOU ARE GIVING YOU LIFE FOR THAT THING.
 
So whatever it is you are doing,
Know there is a way out.
Know you CAN have what you want.
 
You don’t have to sacrifice your happiness to live a life you don’t want to be living anyways.
 
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Don’t do shit you don’t want to do to live a life you don’t want to live.

For those of us who want to get to the next level, we are always looking for that edge to be better, faster, smarter and stronger.

Our biggest problem may be that we are doing something we don’t want to be doing in the first place or doing something in a way we don’t want to be doing it. My addiction helped me be able to perform in a life I didn’t want to be living in the first place. And maybe you don’t have an addiction, but if you are compromising who you are and what you want in your business, in your marriage, in your life… it will keep you from making it to the next level easily and from reaching your full potential. And what’s the point of reaching that next level if your ladder is completely against the wrong wall?

You have been given dreams and desires – dreams that drive you to be better, faster, stronger, smarter without prescription drugs.

This is my story of going through 10 days of detox in Costa Rica and what I discovered about what the last 5 years have done to my body.

This is an excerpt from my book Addicted: How to Stop Compromising and Be Truly Happy in Your Life

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But don’t I need Adderall for my ADD? 

Having Adderall just gave me the focus and benefits for about the first 6 months to a year. And even though I had ADD, I still had to develop strategies and coping mechanisms like:

  • Getting myself to focus on one thing at a time, 
  • Being intentional, 
  • Getting myself to sit down and just do 10 minutes(which usually would be enough to suck me into whatever it was I needed to work on), 
  • Meditating, 
  • Writing down complex processes as I worked so that I could follow along to keep me focused, 
  • Listening to ambient music with headphones.

Nichole Carlson, Addicted the book, Adderall detox

Nichole Carlson, Addicted the book, Adderall detox

 

All of these things are helpful and almost necessary for most people to stay focused.  

 

Oh, and the most important thing I needed to learn is – 

Don’t do shit you don’t want to do to live a life you don’t want to live. 

 

You are giving your life for that thing you are spending time on. Is that worth your life – even for money? Especially when there is something you are meant to be doing – something that your whole life has been pushing you towards this whole time? And maybe you DON’T know what that is yet, but if that’s the case your job right now is to figure that shit out. THAT’S your job until you do figure it out. 

After the first year, Adderall really just took from me without giving me benefits.

 

Everything that has happened in your life has led you up to this very moment and I believe that everything has been there to serve you, even if you are in pain right now. Because no matter what, you have the power to use the things that have happened and take control of your life. 

Without my experience with Adderall and the pain, I would not have been able to heal from my emotional trauma from almost 20 years ago, I would not have been able to manifest my future husband, and I would not have been able to write this book to share with you. 

 

Too many times, we allow our pain to cripple us and all it wants is to be acknowledged and released.

 

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